Some couples who had been so used to living together may equate the bedroom to routine and boredom. But remember those times that the bedroom used to be the sanctuary of romance and kinkiness for you and your partner? It is the most common place where couples get intimate. I came up with sexy ideas for the bedroom, which varies from nice to naughty activities, props or just any creative idea that would surely please your partner and eventually add spice to your relationship.

1. Dress to be undressed

Public Service Ads by Google asks, have you been in the so-called comfort zone that you now only wear sloppy oversized shirts and plain pjs when you go to bed? For a change, get yourself a cute lingerie and surprise your honey. According to my guy friends, they love to see their girl in matching lacey underwears. This is quiet easy, but the bottomline is learn to be comfortable in your own skin. This is not just for his sake but for your sake too. He’d surely return the favor for your sexy effort.

2. Breakfast in bed

You may be a certified lazy girl who finds it hard to get up every morning but you may want to try this one once in a while. Wake up early and prepare something tasty for your partner and have a light conversation over breakfast. This will start the day right for the two of you. Brace yourself for a steamy action when he comes home later tonight.

3. Soften the lights in the bedroom

Make the ambiance of your room romantic by changing you white fluorescent bulb into a softer yellow shade. When you’re naked, too much brightness brings out your imperfections more. A dimmer shade on the other hand, brings a more cozy and sexy feel inside the room.

4. Simple note

Leave a kinky note for your partner on a visible part of the room before you step out. This will surely rev up his excitement. (Tip: Post-its would do.)

5. Give your bedroom a makeover

Bring out the silky satin sheets. Turn your love nest into a romantic setting. You may also want to rearrange the furniture to make it feel like you’re in a new place. By doing this, you kill the boredom brought about by too much familiarity in that area of the house.

6. Give him a sensual massage

Treat your mate into a sensual massage. This will help him de-stress and be more relaxed. Be sure to touch him on his most erotic zone but save the best for last. You may also want to get on top of him when you’re done and start the real action. Trust me, guys love it when their partners initiate the act

7. Aromatherapy

Mix these sensual oils together and cast your love dovey the sexual spell. Try rose and sandalwood as a mood enhancer. You could also apply a few drops of oil to his body while giving him with a good massage. Also, when you prepare the bath tub, leave few drops of these oils too.

8. Read a sexy book together

Get a bottle of wine and read a sexy book to each other. This will enhance the imagination and desire towards one another.

9. Fun role play

Well, I am not a sex guru but from experience, role-play is exciting. It’s actually up to you and your lover on how creative you’d want to be. For the props, you may want to add blindfold, hand cuffs and other necessary stuff. (Tip: Fishnets are cheap and it’s perfect for rough moments when you want him to rip them off!)

10. Pillow fight

Act like kids together! Pillow fights will remind you of your younger carefree days. Challenge his competitive side. Flirt while fighting and you’d definitely end up getting passionate.

I hope you enjoy these tips and DO share some of yours

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As we journey on in this life we sometime become so busy and boggled down that we simple forget to show love to the precious people around us. Today we’re reminding you to settle for love.

7 things to invite LOVERLINESS in all you relationships.

1. Pay attention to the small things in the relationship and remember each day is not promised so live each day as if it were your last. Treasure time spent together.

2. Look at life with a new point of view and amazement at the simple thing. Understand that everything around you is a miracle.

3. Be cheerful and refuse to be negative. Be optimistic and appreciative.

4. Laugh. There are so many things I’m sure that right around you that you can laugh at…not at other people, but get around people that make you laugh. Laughter melts away stress and brings more memories to precious life moments.

5. Smile. Smiling encourages people to talk to you, opens new doors and possibilities for cherished moments with new people.

6. Life is precious so allow people to see through you, the happiness life could be.

7. Love the people who are close to you and even some who aren’t.

This has been a Midweek Expression coercing you to live with no regrets Wednesday!
Let love shine through folks ~ Thanks for stopping in & have a great day.

Growing old with your partner is not easy and breezy as it may look. To grow old with someone it takes work. As we become older we change, thoughts change and maybe even values rearrange by experience. People seem to think that once married, their partner should stay the same enviably.

Taking time to do a small “REALationship Resume”, will help you stay in tune with your partner as you grow in love. Getting Real with each other at the start of changes will do wonders for the relationship!

Example Couple:

Thomas and Jackie met in college and married right after graduation. Thomas is in construction and has always believed that a woman’s place should be at home if he made enough money to financially care for the whole family.

Jackie, a culinary grad, has always agreed with the old fashion thinking of Thomas.  In fact,  his old fashioned way of thinking is what she loved most about him when they first met.  Thus, she chose the  comfort of running a small cake company from home with the two kids. Now, fast forward about 8 years from the day they were married and Jackie has changed her mind on that. Right after graduating culinary school she really wanted to open her own bridal cake shop, but she never shared this with her husband. She went on with the program that they two started.

However, one day after Jackie’s change of heart, she  popped up with a down payment on a building she had purchased with the money she’d saved. Needless to say, this leaves Thomas in a very compromising position because he had no idea at what point she started thinking being at home was a problem. Not to mention the money Jackie NEVER told him about.

Now folks, this is a problem and I’m sure you can see why. Don’t let this happen to YOUR relationship. Take time to get real often!  As Thomas and Jackie story unfolds, keep updated here. 

In the mean time…

Do these things yearly or as often as you wish:

~ Make plans and stick to them.

~ Pay your bills on time and be financially stable.

~ Set aside one day a month when you go through all your finances and pay all your bills together.

~ Spend time with other people together.

~ Do special things together, like going to dinner for dad’s birthday or attend a holiday together.

~ Practice being respectful of yourselves and your partner.

~ Stop the petty fighting, put the past behind you and focus on your future together.

~ Discuss points of views frequently on life, health and family.

Come join us as we support our S-H-E-M-A Gurl Mrs.Nita Dawson of Detroit, Michigan.

Mrs. Dawson is Co-Host of the S-H-E-M-A Gurls Blog talk Radio Show as well as Co Creator of the S-H-E-M-A Gurl Networking Organization.

Mrs. Dawson will be speaking on current events and plans within the S-H-E-M-A Gurl Network Community and how she & her partner (Katrina) started the network.

Sylver, the founder of THE DIFFERENCE also brother and S-E-P of S-H-E-M-A will conduct this interview on his blog talk radio show. We all appreciate his support and encouragement. With his help we are reminded of the real meaning of networking with respect and commitment.

Much love,

~ Katrina

African-Americans have been victims of discrimination in America since slavery.  We have long blamed whites for all our pain and suffering, but whites are not the only ones to blame.

Blacks victimize their own people. We’ve all heard of black on black crime, but there’s more. We hate each other because of our complexions. This is colorism, the form of discrimination that involves favoring lighter skin over darker skin. (google search info)

Join us tonight on Steamy Trails Speaks!  We will have special guest The Literary Diva of Blog Talk Radio and of course my matchless co host and producer, Nita of Spirited Divas!

We will be discussing the many shades of beauty and becoming happy with YOURS!!!

True Story:

Last weekend while at my favorite spa in Oakland Cali “sol-y-mar”. Anyway, as I sat there in the waiting area in anticipation for my “Island Retreat Massage”, I over heard 2 woman talking. They were about my age, 35ish but, Jay Z says 30 is the new 20 so 26ish it is!

Moving on to the story, now please don’t get me wrong, I’m not a nosey woman, but the only way not to hear this convo would have meant I would have had to leave the house with ear plugs.

The convo went like this and yes I did hear their names…

Amber: I’m so sorry this happened to you AGAIN!

Tina: Is there any good men, I mean I did everything for him and this is how he repays me! All this time he lying about spending time with his son….he was still seeing his ex wife.

Amber: The thing I hate about all this is the fact that you treat his son just like your own. The level of disrespect here angers me.

Tina: Jamie tried to tell me a long time ago that he still flirted with her, but I thought she was being a typical ex wife being jealous so I cursed her out about it. I feel like such a fool.

Amber: No need to feel like a fool Tina, just count your blessings for finding out early on as to what manner of man he is. I know all this really hurts right now, but after our little spa day you’ll feel so much better.

This is when I was called in for my message, so that’s all I got to hear. Nevertheless, that’s all I needed to hear to put that story together. Another sad case of a good woman being cheated on!!!  I wish the best for Tina. It seems her good friend will help her through this horrible ordeal.

The Million Dollar Question I Have Is:

WHAT REALLY KEEPS A MAN FROM CHEATING?

My answer is simple: The man that chooses NOT to cheat is what keeps a man from cheating!

~ I asked a good friend of mines (which happens to be male) to answer these few questions to get a man’s prospective on this topic. He is a “no waste words” type of guy so a very special thanks goes to him for taking the time to reply

Here is what he had to say…

Q: Why do men cheat even when they have a successful, self sufficient woman at home?

 A: Truthfully the success of the woman has little to do with it. Most cheaters do it simply because they can. ANd a successful woman may be too busy to notice.

Q: What will make a man content with what he has?

A: Being content is unique to the person there is no set thing that will do it. Everyones needs are unique.

Q: Is it society that causes men to cheat?

A: SOicety has little to do with it beyond the fact that it is a man’s world

Q: Is there something that a woman can actually do to cheat proof her relationship?

A: No.A person male or female can only be tru to themselves and their partner and hope that they are equally so with them. You can’t “cheat proof” a relationship if a person wants to cheat then they will.

Q: Why do men have such a hard time accepting the woman ending the relationship after he was the one that ruined it?

A: Never heard that before.But in the end, no one likes being rejected and left regardless of if they deseerve it or not.