Turn in your REALationship Resume before it’s to late!

Growing old with your partner is not easy and breezy as it may look. To grow old with someone it takes work. As we become older we change, thoughts change and maybe even values rearrange by experience. People seem to think that once married, their partner should stay the same enviably.

Taking time to do a small “REALationship Resume”, will help you stay in tune with your partner as you grow in love. Getting Real with each other at the start of changes will do wonders for the relationship!

Example Couple:

Thomas and Jackie met in college and married right after graduation. Thomas is in construction and has always believed that a woman’s place should be at home if he made enough money to financially care for the whole family.

Jackie, a culinary grad, has always agreed with the old fashion thinking of Thomas.  In fact,  his old fashioned way of thinking is what she loved most about him when they first met.  Thus, she chose the  comfort of running a small cake company from home with the two kids. Now, fast forward about 8 years from the day they were married and Jackie has changed her mind on that. Right after graduating culinary school she really wanted to open her own bridal cake shop, but she never shared this with her husband. She went on with the program that they two started.

However, one day after Jackie’s change of heart, she  popped up with a down payment on a building she had purchased with the money she’d saved. Needless to say, this leaves Thomas in a very compromising position because he had no idea at what point she started thinking being at home was a problem. Not to mention the money Jackie NEVER told him about.

Now folks, this is a problem and I’m sure you can see why. Don’t let this happen to YOUR relationship. Take time to get real often!  As Thomas and Jackie story unfolds, keep updated here. 

In the mean time…

Do these things yearly or as often as you wish:

~ Make plans and stick to them.

~ Pay your bills on time and be financially stable.

~ Set aside one day a month when you go through all your finances and pay all your bills together.

~ Spend time with other people together.

~ Do special things together, like going to dinner for dad’s birthday or attend a holiday together.

~ Practice being respectful of yourselves and your partner.

~ Stop the petty fighting, put the past behind you and focus on your future together.

~ Discuss points of views frequently on life, health and family.