What Really Keeps A Man From Cheating?

True Story:

Last weekend while at my favorite spa in Oakland Cali “sol-y-mar”. Anyway, as I sat there in the waiting area in anticipation for my “Island Retreat Massage”, I over heard 2 woman talking. They were about my age, 35ish but, Jay Z says 30 is the new 20 so 26ish it is!

Moving on to the story, now please don’t get me wrong, I’m not a nosey woman, but the only way not to hear this convo would have meant I would have had to leave the house with ear plugs.

The convo went like this and yes I did hear their names…

Amber: I’m so sorry this happened to you AGAIN!

Tina: Is there any good men, I mean I did everything for him and this is how he repays me! All this time he lying about spending time with his son….he was still seeing his ex wife.

Amber: The thing I hate about all this is the fact that you treat his son just like your own. The level of disrespect here angers me.

Tina: Jamie tried to tell me a long time ago that he still flirted with her, but I thought she was being a typical ex wife being jealous so I cursed her out about it. I feel like such a fool.

Amber: No need to feel like a fool Tina, just count your blessings for finding out early on as to what manner of man he is. I know all this really hurts right now, but after our little spa day you’ll feel so much better.

This is when I was called in for my message, so that’s all I got to hear. Nevertheless, that’s all I needed to hear to put that story together. Another sad case of a good woman being cheated on!!!  I wish the best for Tina. It seems her good friend will help her through this horrible ordeal.

The Million Dollar Question I Have Is:

WHAT REALLY KEEPS A MAN FROM CHEATING?

My answer is simple: The man that chooses NOT to cheat is what keeps a man from cheating!

~ I asked a good friend of mines (which happens to be male) to answer these few questions to get a man’s prospective on this topic. He is a “no waste words” type of guy so a very special thanks goes to him for taking the time to reply

Here is what he had to say…

Q: Why do men cheat even when they have a successful, self sufficient woman at home?

 A: Truthfully the success of the woman has little to do with it. Most cheaters do it simply because they can. ANd a successful woman may be too busy to notice.

Q: What will make a man content with what he has?

A: Being content is unique to the person there is no set thing that will do it. Everyones needs are unique.

Q: Is it society that causes men to cheat?

A: SOicety has little to do with it beyond the fact that it is a man’s world

Q: Is there something that a woman can actually do to cheat proof her relationship?

A: No.A person male or female can only be tru to themselves and their partner and hope that they are equally so with them. You can’t “cheat proof” a relationship if a person wants to cheat then they will.

Q: Why do men have such a hard time accepting the woman ending the relationship after he was the one that ruined it?

A: Never heard that before.But in the end, no one likes being rejected and left regardless of if they deseerve it or not.