Comments on: Men..A No Strings Attached Arrangement Often Comes With Loopholes (A special Post) http://www.slickgurl.com/2009/01/26/mena-no-strings-attached-arrangement-often-comes-with-loopholes/ UNICORN EBONESS - The Blog With No Particular Direction - LET'S TALK Tue, 14 Jul 2009 18:37:16 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.6 hourly 1 By: SL http://www.slickgurl.com/2009/01/26/mena-no-strings-attached-arrangement-often-comes-with-loopholes/comment-page-1/#comment-4110 SL Tue, 14 Jul 2009 18:37:16 +0000 http://www.slickgurl.com/?p=417#comment-4110 I don't understand why everybody thinks it's men who are the ones who can deal with the no strings, and woman are the ones always falling for the guy. I'm a woman, and I don't feel the need to be in a relationship right now but do enjoy sex, casually! In my experience of the last few years of this is that the man is ALWAYS the one to fall for the girl, not the other way around. I have never crossed those feelings because I've decided from the beginning it won't go that far. However, the men I am sleeping with always feel that it will lead somewhere, and end up getting too clingy. This is the case for most of my female friends because we all are just having fun right now, but it's the guys who are calling us non stop and trying to start a relationship. Do more research and stop being so sexist next time. I don’t understand why everybody thinks it’s men who are the ones who can deal with the no strings, and woman are the ones always falling for the guy.
I’m a woman, and I don’t feel the need to be in a relationship right now but do enjoy sex, casually! In my experience of the last few years of this is that the man is ALWAYS the one to fall for the girl, not the other way around. I have never crossed those feelings because I’ve decided from the beginning it won’t go that far. However, the men I am sleeping with always feel that it will lead somewhere, and end up getting too clingy. This is the case for most of my female friends because we all are just having fun right now, but it’s the guys who are calling us non stop and trying to start a relationship. Do more research and stop being so sexist next time.

]]> By: Katrina Gurl http://www.slickgurl.com/2009/01/26/mena-no-strings-attached-arrangement-often-comes-with-loopholes/comment-page-1/#comment-308 Katrina Gurl Tue, 10 Mar 2009 06:16:57 +0000 http://www.slickgurl.com/?p=417#comment-308 Oooooh I love this reply!!! Thank U...we hear you loud and clear!!! LOL! ~ Katrina Oooooh I love this reply!!!
Thank U…we hear you loud
and clear!!! LOL!
~ Katrina

]]> By: rickey http://www.slickgurl.com/2009/01/26/mena-no-strings-attached-arrangement-often-comes-with-loopholes/comment-page-1/#comment-307 rickey Tue, 10 Mar 2009 06:06:40 +0000 http://www.slickgurl.com/?p=417#comment-307 this is so interesting. everybody loves the "unconditional love" concept, but application is a whole nuther thang!!!!!! I want you and you want me. ok cool. Now, here is what has to happen for that to happen. This is bargaining not relationship building. Did I say build. Put some value to the meeting/interactions. Share some real truths. No instant gratification agenda. No , I am really lying, and if you go for the liie, cool, not my problemo. No let you make up for the last person to enter/leave my life. No, pretending I really do not want anything from this union, what will be will be hype. Here is the real truth about every relationship on this planet. The ONLY person you can REALLY Control is YOU!!!!! Yes, YOU!!!! Did I say CONTROL!!!! Yes, control. Have the power to "make" someone do something!!! People spend lifetimes attempting to CONTROL others. From adults to kids, from acquintance to friends, from employees to service providers. you pick the relationship. The minute someone exerts or attempts CONTROL , game over. Now, actions and reaction will be based on what the other person does. You are not doing what I want you do , take this, take that!!!! What a grand waste of valuable time. I can feel the saying " YOU DO YOU AND I WILL DO ME!!!!". People who accept that the only person they can TRULY CONTROL is SELF, LIVE healthy liives. Plays well with others, Get more things done, Have less stress, on the list goes on. Others suffer. Come up with a lot of psycho babble about the true meaning of relationships and when all else fail , throws JESUS in the mix, and hide behind some personal benefit scripture ( usually a oneliner or two from a verse pulled from a chapter). Here what makes that so ironic. Jesus Did NOT try to control anyone!!!!!! Aint that sumthin!!!!! He got the job done by leading by example. Those who choose to follow, cool, those who did not, cool. So if you truly desire to have a healthy relationship, do not even attempt to CONTROL ANOTHER emotions, truths, reactions, actions, interpretation, money, relationships, etc. No conditionals. If you do this then I do that. If you reallly cared you would........ You MUST NOT care for you did not............................ You had to know what I meant cuz............................ Want to find how real truth works? What to be involved in a real relationship???? Try NO CONTROL ANOTHER on for size. For those who think this writing is just simpliistic ramblings. TRY NOT TO CONTROL ANOTHER FOR 30 DAYS AND GET BACK AT ME!!! Oh yes, for those who have not done this, it will be one of the greatest challenges of your life. For those who are putting this to use everyday, you will grow another 30 days of real relationship strength. Do this enough time and pretty soon it becomes a way of life and not a challenge to be accomplished. I am out!!!! this is so interesting. everybody loves the “unconditional love” concept, but application is a whole nuther thang!!!!!!

I want you and you want me. ok cool. Now, here is what has to happen for that to happen. This is bargaining not relationship building.

Did I say build. Put some value to the meeting/interactions. Share some real truths.

No instant gratification agenda. No , I am really lying, and if you go for the liie, cool, not my problemo. No let you make up for the last person to enter/leave my life. No, pretending I really do not want anything from this union, what will be will be hype.

Here is the real truth about every relationship on this planet. The ONLY person you can REALLY Control is YOU!!!!! Yes, YOU!!!! Did I say CONTROL!!!!

Yes, control. Have the power to “make” someone do something!!!

People spend lifetimes attempting to CONTROL others. From adults to kids, from acquintance to friends, from employees to service providers. you pick the relationship.

The minute someone exerts or attempts CONTROL , game over.

Now, actions and reaction will be based on what the other person does.
You are not doing what I want you do , take this, take that!!!!

What a grand waste of valuable time. I can feel the saying ” YOU DO YOU AND I WILL DO ME!!!!”. People who accept that the only person they can TRULY CONTROL is SELF, LIVE healthy liives.

Plays well with others, Get more things done, Have less stress, on the list goes on.

Others suffer.

Come up with a lot of psycho babble about the true meaning of relationships and when all else fail , throws JESUS in the mix, and hide behind some personal benefit scripture
( usually a oneliner or two from a verse pulled from a chapter).

Here what makes that so ironic. Jesus Did NOT try to control anyone!!!!!!
Aint that sumthin!!!!! He got the job done by leading by example.
Those who choose to follow, cool, those who did not, cool.

So if you truly desire to have a healthy relationship, do not even attempt to CONTROL ANOTHER emotions, truths, reactions, actions, interpretation, money, relationships, etc.

No conditionals.

If you do this then I do that. If you reallly cared you would……..
You MUST NOT care for you did not……………………….
You had to know what I meant cuz……………………….

Want to find how real truth works? What to be involved in a real relationship????
Try NO CONTROL ANOTHER on for size.

For those who think this writing is just simpliistic ramblings.

TRY NOT TO CONTROL ANOTHER FOR 30 DAYS AND GET BACK AT ME!!!

Oh yes, for those who have not done this, it will be one of the greatest challenges of your life. For those who are putting this to use everyday, you will grow another 30 days of real relationship strength. Do this enough time and pretty soon it becomes a way of life and not a challenge to be accomplished.

I am out!!!!

]]> By: Katrina Gurl http://www.slickgurl.com/2009/01/26/mena-no-strings-attached-arrangement-often-comes-with-loopholes/comment-page-1/#comment-226 Katrina Gurl Mon, 02 Mar 2009 01:45:44 +0000 http://www.slickgurl.com/?p=417#comment-226 Well didn't you tell it like it is with this comment!!! Love it! Thanks so much for stopping by :) Well didn’t you tell it like it is with this comment!!!
Love it! Thanks so much for stopping by :)

]]> By: blackwidowinsc http://www.slickgurl.com/2009/01/26/mena-no-strings-attached-arrangement-often-comes-with-loopholes/comment-page-1/#comment-221 blackwidowinsc Sun, 01 Mar 2009 14:44:24 +0000 http://www.slickgurl.com/?p=417#comment-221 The only way to be in a successful relationship with a man is to think like a man. For every one man who is honest and upfront about wanting a casual relationship, there are ten more who will tell you that he is looking for a wife but will still treat you like an every once in a while thing. We won’t even start to discuss the men who are married, gay, in prison, or otherwise in an existing relationship. That shrinks the dating, marrying and yes, booty-call pool to almost nothing for single females. Now, having said this, it is now time for women to take responsibility for the way they allow a man to treat them. Watch his actions and make a determination on if he is living up to his word. If you don’t want to accept his terms then don’t, walk away. Stop accepting mediocrity and instead learn to be by yourself until you meet someone who can live up to reasonable expectations. Remember, a man can only treat you in a way in which you allow. Stop calling up your girlfriends telling them how badly he treats you and about the drama you are putting up with in order to be with this man. Instead, be a positive influence and shout to the world how you dropped this loser. Always do what is right for you and remember; sometimes that man is just not into you. But it’s o.k., move on. The only way to be in a successful relationship with a man is to think like a man. For every one man who is honest and upfront about wanting a casual relationship, there are ten more who will tell you that he is looking for a wife but will still treat you like an every once in a while thing. We won’t even start to discuss the men who are married, gay, in prison, or otherwise in an existing relationship. That shrinks the dating, marrying and yes, booty-call pool to almost nothing for single females.

Now, having said this, it is now time for women to take responsibility for the way they allow a man to treat them. Watch his actions and make a determination on if he is living up to his word. If you don’t want to accept his terms then don’t, walk away. Stop accepting mediocrity and instead learn to be by yourself until you meet someone who can live up to reasonable expectations.

Remember, a man can only treat you in a way in which you allow. Stop calling up your girlfriends telling them how badly he treats you and about the drama you are putting up with in order to be with this man. Instead, be a positive influence and shout to the world how you dropped this loser. Always do what is right for you and remember; sometimes that man is just not into you. But it’s o.k., move on.

]]> By: Katrina Gurl http://www.slickgurl.com/2009/01/26/mena-no-strings-attached-arrangement-often-comes-with-loopholes/comment-page-1/#comment-213 Katrina Gurl Sat, 28 Feb 2009 18:48:44 +0000 http://www.slickgurl.com/?p=417#comment-213 WOW! Now that's the downfall of it all. You start out one way & it takes a major turn for the worse!!! WOW!
Now that’s the downfall of it all.
You start out one way & it takes a major
turn for the worse!!!

]]> By: Mahoganydymond™ http://www.slickgurl.com/2009/01/26/mena-no-strings-attached-arrangement-often-comes-with-loopholes/comment-page-1/#comment-210 Mahoganydymond™ Sat, 28 Feb 2009 14:49:15 +0000 http://www.slickgurl.com/?p=417#comment-210 When I first met let's call him 6 year, He told me the same thing. He didn't want anything serious and for me not to catch feelings. Well like I said I been with him 6 years. His actions were so much greater than what a booty call/ friends with benefits should have been. After 3 years of on and off again moods, he told me he loved me. We became an item and then BOOM, he started that crap again. Sometimes I felt I lost 6 years of my life with a man, who was confused as hell.. So now I am gradually distancing myself from this man. When I first met let’s call him 6 year, He told me the same thing. He didn’t want anything serious and for me not to catch feelings. Well like I said I been with him 6 years. His actions were so much greater than what a booty call/ friends with benefits should have been. After 3 years of on and off again moods, he told me he loved me. We became an item and then BOOM, he started that crap again. Sometimes I felt I lost 6 years of my life with a man, who was confused as hell.. So now I am gradually distancing myself from this man.

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